My dear friend Ms. Loretta Veney lost her mother last week. As her post mentions she was planning to tell her mother's best friend, Mrs. Adams. But Ms. Loretta chose NOT to tell her!
That has always been my advice. You have to go into the world of the Alzheimer's patient.
Kindness not brutal "honesty" has to be the guiding light.
We did the same thing when my grandpa died. We NEVER told my grandma! Why repeat painful news over and over again, if the loved one will only forget.
My heart goes out to Ms. Veney, but her sweet mother will have her best friend with her up in heaven!
Here is Ms. Loretta Woodward Veney's post from FACEBOOK: On this night before Mom’s funeral I should be asleep right now but I’m not. I just found this photo from Mom’s 85th birthday party at my house and it’s one of my favs of Mom and her bestie Mrs. Adams who has been a huge part of my entire life. Two weeks ago I went to tell her about Mom’s death but decided against telling her once I got there. I found out last night that Mrs. Adams died earlier this week and it broke me. Best friends dying three weeks apart. I hope they are laughing and dancing together again just like they used to!
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